What if you woke up being the person you always wanted to be?
““If you treat an individual as he is, he will stay as he is, but if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and would be, he will become what he ought to be and could be.””
Some of us have had teachers, coaches, and bosses who see our potential and help us see it too.
I learned how to open up possibilities for others with the University of Toronto's Solution Focused Conversations course lead by the most amazing teacher ever, Haesun Moon.
Each of us has the power to change. By exploring "What If", we can find new possibilities and practical and implementable solutions.
Here is how it unfolded for one of my clients:
Sue (not her real name) wanted to be more confident, and to be seen as more competent and professional.
"What if a miracle happened last night, while you were asleep and somehow--no one knows how--you woke up full of confidence? What would your husband notice?"
"He would see me smile more. I would spring out of bed."
"What else would he notice?"
"I would stand up straighter, and I'd make the coffee."
I asked for more details, and she continued to describe how her day full of confidence would look.
"What would your boss notice?"
"She would hear me outline my client proposals, and I would have the next steps outlined."
"How would your boss see you differently?"
"I would be dressed more professionally, I wouldn't wait for her to tell me what to do next."
In our one ten-minute conversation, she became confident. She described how she would behave, and how others would see her and react to her. Sue finally allowed the confident, professional version of herself to emerge.
But, the confident, professional version of Sue was there all the time. Our Solution Focused Conversation brought Sue's confidence to life.
If a miracle visited you, who could you become? How would you show up If you had confidence, respect, or executive presence?
Solution Focused Conversations are powerful and can make changes happen quickly.
I'd love to help you grow into your the best version of yourself. Let's talk.